Am I expecting too much out of my DSLR (D5100)?

I'm a new photo enthusiast who has done (what I thought) to be extensive research before buying a DSLR. After hours on and off of reading, I bought the Nikon D 5100 (Little did I know it has slow shutter speed with flash on, but that's entirely different entire that's irking me) because it fit my price range and had all the capabilities I needed to begin environmental portrait photography (purchased the Nikor 55-200mm VR).

Here's the issue: I don't think the images are nearly as sharp enough, even though the "Fine" and "Large" image settings are permanently set before I take a photo.It's funny that this is a problem I would NEVER think I'd have with a DSLR. Before buying them, I found some DSLRs TOO sharp to the point where you can almost count the pores in peoples' skin and that was not flattering to me. Now it seems I have the opposite problem.

When comparing my DSLR sharpness for my awful point & shoot I had prior, I can barely spot a difference. Are these images sharp in DSLR standards to you? Am I expecting the impossible?

DSLR Practice Shots:

http://s5.postimage.org/q9j0fy3ef/016.jpg

My Crappy Point And Shoot:
http://i.imgur.com/ChmSZ.jpg
http://i.imgur.com/YH7sA.jpg

And like my point & shoot, the image is blurred with any kind of movement from the subject, even at 1/200 shutter speed.
>>> Am I expecting too much out of my DSLR (D5100)?